I’m Tonya, an information junkie who loves living life at 90 mph, and I want to welcome you to my virtual home. You are safe here, wanted and loved because of – not in spite of – who you are. The front door is always unlocked. You can walk in any time, help yourself to something from the fridge, find a seat (feel free to move the laundry) and rest your feet on the furniture.
I live in the agricultural heart of California with my husband and our two spirited daughters. I love to cook, hate to clean and consider potlucks to be the most underrated social events of the modern age.
Oh, and I’m here to change the world by making a difference in the lives of everyone I meet. I’m not perfect, and I don’t want to be. I have learned to embrace the endless imperfections that come with my humanity.
I spent my life feeling alone in crowds, as if everyone else knew something I didn’t. I thought if I could just read the right books, watch the right shows and meet the right people, I’d discover the secret to success. I was wrong. I didn’t need the right role model; I needed to stop modeling the wrong roles.
It wasn’t easy. I had to change my thinking to change the way I moved about the world. Science calls it a paradigm shift, replacing the usual way of thinking with a new and different way.
This is the reason I write and speak. To help others realize that the answer to happiness and success isn’t to change who they are but to change how they think about who they are. I am passionate about strengthening families by encouraging and equipping women to be the best version of themselves as mothers, wives, professionals and friends. This commitment earned me the honor of being named among Merced’s 20 Under 40 in 2017.
Authenticity is everything to me – it governs how I live, how I love and how I relate to others. I crave community, and I love how social media bridges the barriers of time and space to allow for friendships to flourish. When I’m not working, writing here, or traveling to speak, you can find me promoting the positive side of social media on LinkedIn, and managing Kathi Lipp’s Clutter Free Academy on Facebook – the kindest corner of the Internet you’ll ever find. You can find out more about me by poking around this site, but I would love to find out more about you. Connect with me on Facebook, Instagram or Twitter and introduce yourself. Let me know what drives you, what scares you and what overwhelms you. I promise to return the favor.